During a psychiatric hospital's shift that use to work, I got caught in an interesting article of a famous life's coach.  

This article is an interesting focus on life and how it's changed.

I was taught in school that as we evolve as a species we improve the whole time, each generation developing more advanced features.  I've found out this is a common misconception. But Evolution doesn't mean the species get better adapted to the environment, sometimes a great cost.

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People now may be living longer than they did before, but it's not clear that people are living better. In the past, we live for time off.  Now we live to get things done faster and more efficiently.  

A few decades ago we'd meander over to an answering or fax machine and respond to the messages in our own time, or not at all if we didn't feel like this.  Now, if you don't' reply to an email within four seconds of it arriving, people think you 've dropped them and will delete you from their contacts.

With money in the bank, you could only spend what you had; but now, credit cards have 


We think that our thoughts are who we are.  In actuality what you are is much bigger than what you are thinking.  Thoughts make up only about one per cent of what's going on inside your brain. 
The other 99 per cent of the mental caboodle you haven't got the bandwidth to ever know.  Your brains too busy to bother with thoughts because it's having to sort out 11 million bits of information per second.  So our internal thoughts are a small part of who we are, but why are most of those thoughts so negative? 

About four out of five thoughts will be fairly critical. giving us hideous internal reviews.  Much of our language is built around warning us of danger which in the past could really exist and these messages became internalised.  

So, what started off as something helpful like, 'Oh my God, I'm going to be caught in another ice age without gloves,'  has become 'Oh my God, I'm going to lose my girlfriend or boyfriend/ spouse/ job/money life etc.

'The brain is a velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.'

Rick Hanson, Neuroscientist. 


 Because most of us are unaware of who or what we are, we don't know why we do the things we do.
We react to things that are buried deep in our memories - events we can't even remember and yet they still drive our actions. 

Practising mindfulness will help to cope with anxiety and calm your mind.  Becoming a mindful person will make you happier, calmer and more able to focus your mind. 

Mindfulness may not be easy for everyone but with consistent practice, for even a few minutes a day, you can turn that negative Velcro into positive Teflon. 

Six benefits of mindfulness:

1. halt negative thoughts
2. Reduce stress
3. Live Longer
4. Enjoy the present
5. Focus on the positive
6. Be compassionate

The article is an edited extract from How To Be Human: The Manual by Ruby Wax with a Neuroscientist &a Monk, which has been published by Penguin Life on 25of January, £14,99. 

You can order your copy for just £8.99 visiting this link.

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