Why we go wrong with a partner?


Mia has just finished with her third relationship.  She finds herself desolated and depressed as she can't understand why she is so unlucky in love?


All her ex-partners had something in common; they were a kind of narcissist, egocentric and emotional threatening persons.  They looked like perfect guys coming from an absolute dream.  But a the end, and after a couple of months she will start to notice that there is something wrong on it.  Despite her endeavour to change her situation, fitting herself to the circumstance, she was miserable!


Mia's mum was a single housewife with no studies or vocation.    She worked hard to raise Mia on her own, despite her failed relationships with Mia's father.  Mia'  childhood was marked by neglects, disputes, threatening, continually shouting, and maltreating from her father.  Mia' mum always tried to please her husband.  A narcissist and abusive man who like to expend his money with other women and vicious.  Neglecting in that way his family.   Mia's mum couldn't hold enough and finally decided to leave.


During the next 20 years, Mia will try to forget her painful childhood's experiences and live the life that she always wanted.  But for Mia, it was something impossible e inexplicable. 


We live, learn, and then after we grow we move onto a higher conscious level.  What does that mean?  Some people find themselves like a hamster in a roller coaster, repeating their same story over and over again.  Of course without realising what is underline! 

Life offers the opportunity to redeem yourself from your past and move on.  To be happy as you want is going to be possible when you pay attention and listen to your unconscious mind.



"Mia, despite her desire for a perfect caring partner, has been choosing same patterns and behaviours as her father."  Her unconscious mind was playing up games with her. It has been driving her acts from the background, idealising her partners as her paternal figure.  She seeks her missing father 's character from her childhood, and it cost her lot of pain and disappointments.  This term was developed by the neurologist Sigmund Freud and his psychoanalysis theory of attachment.



It cost to Mia to admit her deviant behaviour, but after receiving therapy, she becomes aware and then worked on her change.  Facing your feelings and past experiences will give you insights and the courage to change your life.  Mia moved on from her childhood trauma and started to build a new life.



Lots of people go to counselling and therapist these days; people feel painful experiences such as, traumas, conflicts, looseness, stress, depression, disappointment, etc.

If your past is keeping you from achieving your happiness, seek help and reclaim back your life.


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