Managing Anger after abuses "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder".

Ann arranged an appointment with the therapist because she is finding hard managing her rage and irascibility. 

Ann suffered from sexual abuse when she was 10 years old.  She was living with her father, her ankle, and her stepmother in the countryside.  Ann father had a job as a night operator in a factory so her stepmother supposed to look after her at home.  

Ann says that her stepmother was having an affair with another man while her father was working during the night.  So she was most of the time alone at home.  During that time and feeling vulnerable, her ankle (her father' brother) a robust and tall man seize the opportunity to take advantage of her.  


Ann's father never talked to her so she couldn't say anything to him as he'll never listen to her. 

Years passed and Ann still felt upset with and her father as he neglected her.  Ann was projecting that behaviour into her current life.  She was married but her husband could not understand her behaviour and left her.


Anger comes as a result of thinking that we have been mistreated or disrespected, 
or we think that any circumstance is unjust, and we won't stand for it.  Those feelings stimulate the body adrenaline response helping our body to cope and give a quick response.  It could be fighting or running ('fight or flight').

Physical Sensations

heart racing or pounding.

breathing quickly.

tense muscles.


hot, sweating


stomach churning or butterflies

fist or teeth

Angry Behaviours


aggressive body posture

hit out



Anger has consequences, and they involve hurting other people's feelings,  and sometimes physically.

Anger can cause serious problems in our personal lives, and affect work.

We need to understand what we are REALLY angry about which may be NOT what we are directing our anger towards at that time.  It is often related to any event from our past. Ann's case the current situation FEELS similar to her childhood, so it triggers our angry response now.

Identifying triggers.
What or when you are more likely to get angry? If you can identify the root, then
 you can do something about those situations making some changes.

How to deal with the anger. 

Practice meditation or mindful breathing - this will help reduce the physical sensations, control emotions and intensity of thoughts.

Go for a walk with a friend or alone, run or cycle, or do some gardening or reading.