From sorrow to Healing

Dealing with emotional pain: stress and anxiety.

Becky's marital conflicts, her husband's family issues, the distance of her mother and family living in another country, on-going husband's medical problems, financial worries, uncertain about what future brings as she just has a new baby, and the list goes on.

"Stress is an essential part of life that keep us alert."  But in a small amount!

We all experience stress and anxiety, and at any point of life, everyone struggles with unusual, challenging experiences.  The human being pays a high price to keep in track their life.  The degree of suffering could be extreme and defiant but with effort, manageable.

We react to external circumstances whether or not we express emotions.  It might be due to cultural and social upbringing.  Some traditions teach to keep emotions intrinsically because they attribute them to a specific sex, such a male.  Some folks are merely reserved people, who prefer to deal with feelings privately.

The truth is that as higher is the level of the stressful events, significant is the impact on people.  As more catastrophic is the fact, more destructive and devastating.  Some people tend to bury their feelings and emotion not responding at all. 

To make it through the emotional sink and get sufficient benefit from therapy, people need to face the reality of the origin of their pain; for example sadness, frustration, anger, fear, loneliness, etc.  Where they come from? What makes me feel like this? Then, How can I manage this situation? 

Some people say that going through painful situations make us grown, built character or maybe is some kind of test of strength, or spiritual threat.  We use to make up the pain to relieve the distress, but there is one right affirmation; pain is a pain, and therefore hurts, hence is wholly understood to want to reduce the agony. 

Don't be ashamed to seek help.  It's your life, and your responsibility to improve it.  You can find help in some many ways: with a Self-therapy workbookBreaking Negative Thinking PatternsIn our own hands, visiting a therapist or counsellor or alternatively, talking about your problems with someone who you trust.  Practising Mindfulness is another effective option.